Why chasing happiness won’t make you happy

We covet a good many things in our lives – power, money, status. It always seems as though we are looking to ride the next wave that comes along, and improve our status in life. Now, this isn’t necessarily a bad thing, and it’s good to be ambitious, but we also have to know where to draw the line. Ambition is a positive thing, but we can spend too much time chasing after that brand new shiny thing.

Now, you might not immediately see the problem with this or even think that this is a bad thing. And, in many ways it isn’t, but we need to beware of chasing happiness too much – it won’t actually make you as happy as you think. As a cautionary tale, these are some of the key reasons why chasing happiness will not ultimately succeed in making you happy.

Chasing the dragon

The saying ‘chasing the dragon’ directly applies here. You chase the high that achieving happiness can bring you, and it feels great. But then you are looking at the next thing, and the next thing and each thing has to be bigger, brighter, louder than whatever went before. The problem is that this brings you to a stage where your desires for happiness become unattainable, and you struggle to fulfill them, which leaves you bitter and upset. This is something you need to be very careful of when you start to chase happiness.

Compare, despair

Because how omniscient social media has become these days it’s so easy to look at what other people are doing and become envious. You always think the grass is greener, and you always want what you don’t have – that’s human nature. So, it’s crucial to make sure you stop comparing yourself to others because this is only going to bring you down and make you resentful. If you need to try to make sure you come off social media, so you aren’t constantly comparing yourself to other people, even in a subconscious way.

Just be

We try so hard to accomplish things, and often we try so hard to be happy that we wind up forcing the issue. You can’t force something for very long before it comes apart at the seams. So, instead of trying to be happy all the time, just be. Just live your life, and do what you do. If you’re happy, and as long as you aren’t hurting anybody in the process, happiness will come organically for you. This is the most important part to remember of the process, and the best way to remain happy in your life.

Life doesn’t work that way

Life is not always happy. There, we said it. In order to have a balanced, healthy, and fulfilled life, you have to experience the entire spectrum of human emotion. Happiness is a big part of life, but so is sadness, sorrow, surprise, joy, fear, and excitement. Don’t try to force yourself to feel happy if you actually feel sad, life doesn’t work that way. Take everything as it comes, and try to roll with the punches – that’s the way life works.

You shouldn’t chase happiness all the time because this is not the way to be happy. Instead, you need to make sure you experience all the things life has to offer. There are so many feelings and emotions you will go through in life, and you need to be thankful for what you have rather than trying to look for something better all the time.