Why yo-yo relationships are bad for you

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The path of true love doth never run smooth, and most of us have experienced that for ourselves. Over the course of your lifetime, you may have had your heart broken, you may have broken a few hearts yourself, and you may have just been overwhelmed and confused by the love interests in your life. We don’t blame you. When you find someone you want to be with, you just assume that everything will work out for the best. That isn’t always the case.

The trust is gone

It’s a well-known fact that you always break up for a reason. Whether your partner cheated on you, whether you cheated on them, or whether you just had problems that you just couldn’t fix, one of you decided to end that relationship. If you have time apart and it seems as though you’re working your way back together, there’s always going to be these thoughts in the back of your mind. Will they cheat on you again? Will I cheat on them again? Or will these problems just coming back? Without trust, your relationship doesn’t have any legs to stand on.

It’s hard to plan a future

There comes a point in our lives when we all want to settle down and plan a future with the person we love more than anything in the world. You might want to get married, have kids, and take the next step in your relationship. After all, it’s only natural. However, if you’re in an on-and-off relationship, you never really know where you stand with each other. If you’re constantly breaking up and getting back together, you will constantly feel confused. Without knowing that each party is 100% committed to your relationship, you cannot move forward.

You start to lose perspective

When you want to be with someone so bad you constantly make your way back to them, you often do this because you crave the way things used to be – or the way that you want things to be. Yet, your past experience proves that this is not going to happen. No matter how hard you try to make it work, it always ends up with the same result. Because of this, you start to lose perspective on what is real and what is not. Are you even happy in this relationship? Could you be happier? Ask yourself these questions.

You are not a unit

One of the best things about finding someone you want to spend the rest of your life with is that you’re a unit. You are one and the same. Although you do have separate lives, you ultimately come together at the end of the day and share your experiences. If you are constantly breaking up, you are living your own separate lives more than you are living a life together. If you really want to make it work, you need to put 100% in to ensure that your yo-yo relationship turns into a real relationship.

Yo-yo relationships are extremely common, but they aren’t always good for you. This is why.

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